I am willing to bet working moms are all faced with a similar guilt. The challenge of putting in hours, making money and hopefully spending time doing what we love, is a balancing act between being their for our families and their needs.
I feel extremely fortunate not to have to clock into a 9-5 job. I love being my own boss and having freedom and flexibility. However sometimes working from home, scraping together work minutes here and there in between pouring cups of juice, breaking up fights, and bandaging boo boos is not always easy. Having to make business phone calls when my girls are home, locked in the bathroom is not always ideal either.
I guess if I really wanted to I could throw in the towel on my business. The thought has crossed my mind here and there over the last few years. However photography is my passion and one of the few things that excites me and brings me joy. My favorite time of day is when I sit down to review a clients session for the first time and I see all the adorable expressions and emotions my camera has recorded. Capturing people, and life as we live it is my calling. I am blessed beyond words, so throwing in the towel is not the right answer.
Tonight I asked my 8 yr old daughter to get me something, she responded with
"ok but for that I get you & me snuggling for 2 whole TV shows"
she should know by now that Mommy does not watch TV!
so I said to her
"i will gladly snuggle with you but i don't want to do it while watching TV (especially the Disney channel) I have a lot of work to do Sophia. How about I come up after you watch your shows and then I'll snuggle with you for a little bit."
"aww Mom you never snuggle with me, you always have to work!"
ouch that one hurt! but then she added fuel to the fire with this,
"see Mom this is why I wrote that letter to the President about making a law that will let parents spend more time with kids, we need to spend more time together"
her class wrote letters last month to the President about enacting a new law, anything they wished for. Mr. President must think I'm a deadbeat parent after that letter : )
So I said to her okay so if parents get to spend more time with their kids thanks to your new law how do they make money to pay for all these things. This is why we work Sophia.
Her solution without hesitation... "Well if you snuggle with me tonight Mommy I will set up a lemonade stand tomorrow so that you don't have to work so much"
How could I deny her after that sweet and innocent solution.
She was right though what was I doing that couldn't wait one hour? My clients are understanding and family is probably their top priority too. If they had to wait an extra hour for their photo gallery I think they would be ok.
Whats more important then spending time with your family?
Tip of the day when your child is begging to be snuggled, you snuggle! Even if you have to suffer through The Wizards of Waverly place while doing it. Life is too short. We all need to press the pause button every once and awhile whether its to snuggle or to run through the rain.